Listen, your wife is playing with you. She lies and says OM is just a friend. You are her husband! If you don't like her having a friendship with other men, then she should respect you. Does she want friendships with other men.....or does she want a marriage with you?

You are giving her both, the marriage and friends with other men. She calls and talks and disrespects you on FB...... and she tells you to come home and talk more! That is rediculous. No offense, but she is yanking you around and it won't stop as long as you are confused as a man. You are confused by how to act like a man or like a husband. Both should be to act like a man!

You are not taking charge by asking her what she wants and what is she going to do. Tell her you will no longer stay in a marriage that has other men. She can be friends with people you are friends with also. No private friendships with men. No texting other men. You don't text other women. That is how marriage is suppose to be. One man and one woman. Stop asking her how it will be.

You try to win her love and devotion by doing special things for her. But it is not working. As long as she can talk and talk to you.......and you go running back home to her......you do not have respect.

It is time to stand up like a man and tell her, "No more".

You are not controlling. She says those words to contol you! Can you see? She manipulates you. She treats you very, very badly because she has no respect for you as a man. She uses your past mistakes to control you. Do you see? She knows you feel sorry for the past, but she is mean and uses it to punish and as her excuse to cheat on you. She will not change unless she believes she is losing her husband.

Stop talking and saying the same things. It doesn't work. If you leave and stay away from her, she may get her eyes opened. Don't threaten to do it. Just leave her. I am not telling you to divorce her. Just leave her and don't talk to her and let her pull you back. If she really wants to be a good and devoted wife, she knows what she should do. Don't listen to her words. Watch her actions. If her actions are not those of a loving wife, then don't stay in the marriage.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!