I worked perhaps 16 hours a day for a very long time.
Its an interesting thing. In my M, things started out relatively evenly split with household work. My W (GF at the time) always did more probably 60-40 around the house. At the time, we were both in college and I had a part time job. The unevenness was due to me working to support the both of us. As we made it out of college, she started doing more and more around the house until it was probably 95-5. Granted, at the same time, I was adding more and more work to my plate. I ended up with a full time job, and several side jobs as my skills were more marketable at higher rates than hers were. She worked on on our rental properties, which worked out to perhaps 20% employment (based on a regular employment schedule). Her schedule would be a month of non stop work and then off for several months. During the month of work, she would be away from the house and I would sustain household chores etc myself.
This was an arrangement that happened over time, but was something we talked about occasionally and that I thought we were both in agreement over. On several occasions she mentioned that she was grateful that I was able to provide for her in the way that I did, so that she did not have to work minimum wage like she did for a time during our relationship. I expressed to her that I was only able to work as many jobs as I was because she ran the house basically completely. This is not to mean that I would make a mess for her to clean up or that I went out of my way to be a slob. She did laundry, took out trash, cut grass, vacuumed, cleaned etc. I would do dishes and help clean if we had guests come over.
One thing that strikes me is that during some of the talks that we had post BD, she said something along the lines of, "You did everything you were supposed to do to provide for your family." If that is the case, how did I end up here, right?
Me: 28 W: 28 No Kids Together: 10 years Married: 3 years ILYBIDLY: 11/2/17 She moved out: 11/15/17
