Picking up Her MESS #2

[Vanilla]

I would say to you not to label the person only the behaviour.

If you want to say WW behaves badly, abusively and with PTSD then do so. The courts don't like labels generally. So saying she is a...... will create mud slinging. Show instances of behaviour with evidence OK? The evidence is vital.

Please document too.

I suspect I am right on the golden child, choosing the one child that mirrors back more easily. Your other two children will stand up for themselves and WW will likely find it difficult. So in the longer term the sad thing is they will grow apart from WW. And it's likely that she will easily move on from them which of course is less damaging. Sometimes as in Jim WW case she wanted the 'babies' as babies often love unconditionally. When toddlers become children waywards often loseen interest.

The more you hang on to this then the more WW is likely to manipulate. So nonchalance may be your best tactic. Please Google grey rock and also medium chill, it was a long time before I ran into these strategies and I wished I had earlier. I am hoping I can help you get there sooner than I did.

Your funds are limited so you may wish to look to an abuse group for support, often these things are funded by charity or by philanthropists. Although I don't know your jurisdiction, is it possible another poster here can advise. I am only used to the UK systems. Certainly join a group in IRL for some support. It really helps even if it's only a single mums meetup.

Extreme self care, this is stressful.

I am here, lovely lady to listen.

V