Former WH, now LBS Please Help, close to Give Up

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So, i am feeling tired,
Yesterday - after i left the house went to work, stay there do som things, WW call me to ask where i am (said to work) she asks will i come to sleep home or not, answer will decide later..

After my lieveng, she did not FB OM2.

I did not answer, to her FB messages (most gild trip, and to find better woman, if i think she is not enough good for me - AKA when i said that she have, behavior that i will not tolerate (her limerance to OM1 and OM2).
When i went home, she was sleep (make her to look like she is sleeping). i go to MBR, she asks if i lock the dor, i answer Yes. After my lieveng

In the morning we weak up the same time, i when to make me coffee, the put on the mashie her cup, and make coffee. (i thought, if i should do, but i did it). we did not talk, just few word about the wether, then i live 30 minutes earlier. There was so much snow, normally in winter i start her car to be warm when she and kids leave. I clean her car from snow too. I did not wait appropriation from her, i an doing for the kids as well.

To day we are not contact (tat is norm, from more than 1.5 year) i just stop call her for nor reason, she call me from time to time, especially she is worried about me (how i am doing, where i am ....insecurity of her part).

In the afternoon she FB OM2, whit intention about meeting for lunch/dinner, he ask her to go to eat when she is free, 3 days ago, and she not openly agree then, but now she just hook him about it.

So now for today, it was as a plan to go together WW, Me S10 and D8 to do martial art, normally we go separate WW and kids and me in different days (because of work schedule) and then doit together on Saturday. last week we doit together all week, because i do my best to leave work earlier. So for today it supposed to doit again (be all of Us), but i depside to not go with them. I am a little sad that she contact OM2 so early, just next day...but

So i am thinking should i go with them to do sport when it is possible, or tray to make missing time (if she miss me a all).

From this point that i said to her, that i will not tolerate her EM (her friend sheep - as she clarify) or her way of life (being friendly in special way - as she clarify), what to do when my boundaries are crossed ????

Should i do something about what she is doing - if i suppose to do not know - aka keep boundaries?
And what if she continuous FB, or meat OM2 freely and let me know???

Before 6 months after big fight, as she hid from me meting the OM2, before next meet she call me and said if i come home on time because she will go on diner (make to know with OM2), i answer only I understand, then close the phone (that was advice how to approche the situation from another forum (i ask about exact situation, because i predict it will happened).
So the result from this, was nothing more than cake eating, i behave as this not bordering me for some more months, was friendly not needy and so on. Only think was that she was thinking that i believe that her situation with OM2 was out of control, as well as she occasionally discus wit her GF, why i did not behave sad/angry and so on - regarding OM2 as i was doing before - she suspect me - that i contact OM2 and ask him about leave in peace my WW (because he was little distant or something like that, she side that she will try to manipulate Me and OM2 to convince we were agreed something, she said If we were agreed something - she will clarify our R (aka how/what i can and can not do about her), and will cut any contacts with OM2 (i do not know why).

So base from my old experience, if i be very cool and nice and civil, she will be very happy to be with me, she will not worry about me and tings other OM2, but that will not bring me nowhere. Why, because after my behavior like this during OM1, after OM1, told her he should cut him off because of his GF, my wife ended with OM2 3 months later (the furs one show her some attention/affection).

So here i am. I will wait till right time to go home, after the WW and the kids. If she ask why i did not come to sport with them i will answer, had to do something at work. Will be civil.
Should i behave distant?
How to behave, when i told her that will not tolerate EA/OM2 or such a friendship and she have said to do what i have decide (she do not want me to leave) but will supporter , and she will not tolerate to control her life - keep OM2.

Thanks, to every one be with me .