I think it's wonderful that your sons are going to do the relocation for both your son and you. It's nice to see siblings working together.
Sounds like your h is having some serious moments of clarity. Maybe he's starting to realize how he's been and what he's done. Lots of mending the fences will need to be done by him in the years ahead.
Your own road trip sounds great. I'm sure your friends will be very happy to have you visit and stay a while. Sometimes we need those "solo" trips to recharge our batteries.
Your boss sounds like a nice guy and I'm very happy that he's going to give you a glowing reference.
Lou, it won't be long and it will be time to pack up and move! I'm very happy to see that things are starting to take shape for you, i.e., actually, I should say new adventures are on the horizon for you! I can't wait to read about all of the adventures that you have along the way.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.