Well another hurdle jumped, my last day of work is 29th March.
My boss was really great and supportive, he said that before I leave I will be required to give him a DNA sample ha ha. I will be getting a glowing reference and he said whoever gets me next is a very lucky company ...awwwww
s24 and s21 have been talking and have come up with a cheaper way to do my relocation and will have them doing a brother road trip so they can share the driving and keep each other awake. For them to have got together and come up with a plan has made me one proud mama. They plan to do the relocation mid March, dropping s21 stuff at his location before dropping my stuff of at s24 home. A four day round trip! Got to love em both
I have come up with a couple of different options for my own road trip, I plan to see a couple of g/friends along the way (both promising a nice hot shower and my laundry done !!). Its still a while off but I am getting excited at the new adventure that awaits me. I am sure there will be some challenges along the way, but that is all part of this and hopefully will have me laughing about them when I look back.
I had a strange conversation with s24 the other day, if I didnt know better I would have said he had been lurking around here and picked up some of the MLC phrases. He said that his d is acting really weird, kind of normal ?!! He said that since his d had the emotional breakdown with him in June and then again when s21 moved in with h, its like he has periods of a realization of how he has really messed up, then it takes him a while to process it and then he makes steps to mend it. He said it takes months from each realization to the mending stage ....almost like watching someone work in slow motion. We say here that time slows down for some one going through a MLC, what they see as only a few days is weeks even months. Its interesting that S24 has described exactly that happening.
H is definitely treating the boys very differently these days; he is more patient with them, more engaged in what they are doing and how they are, he is even trying to be helpful if they will let him. I cant say this is like the old h, as even the old h was not this tolerant, this really is a new h, its like he is reflecting on how he has been as a father and husband and seen that he could have done it so much better.
This is typical really, just my luck. He is emerging to be a responsible nice guy and a better person and I will miss out on it. At least the boys will have a more present father at last; even if they finding the change in him a bit odd and hard to get used to, so there is an upside to this new phase that h is in, how long it will last .....that is what we are all questioning ... sad that we are thinking this way huh. Suspicious
