First Post - Not Sure Where I'm Headed

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I had a couple conversations with my W today. Needed to talk to her about splitting bills and other stuff related to the D.

In the first conversation, I ended up walking away rather soon and abruptly. I told her I was not continuing the conversation with the way it was going.

When we talked later, she said she is not going to be cut off again. I explained that I felt disrespected, and that to take care of myself, I need to leave the conversation when I feel disrespected. I told her that I'm learning to set boundaries and not let her "walk all over" me anymore, and that I'm working on walking away when disrespected instead of just taking it and then complaining about it later (being passive aggressive).

So that is the second breakthrough I learned on this board. The first was validating what she says. Still practicing with that one.

She said she is going to get the house appraised as suggested by her attorney, and that I should also get it appraised. She wants the D to be done in 3 months, maybe even two months. I told her I don't think it will go that fast. She said she doesn't know why it won't.

So then I said that I think the house needs to be inspected for meth contamination because I'm not going to buy her out of the house or sell the house if it's contaminated, because I don't want to pay $20K to clean up meth residue later. She thinks I'm making a big deal out of this. Time will tell.