Former WH, now LBS Please Help, close to Give Up

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Sandy please for fast respond

I think you need to stay calm and play it cool. If you have the kids, find somewhere to go or something fun to do with them.

About the kids is already done. Being cool - from your point of view, how it si look like?

You can start by not allowing her to speak to you disrespectfully. She doesn't get to talk down to you, yell, curse, belittle, blame, etc. Don't allow her to show disrespect in front of your children. She doesn't get to boss you. You should not cater to her and treat her as if she royalty. If she speaks with sarcasm, address it at that moment. Don't try to pay her back at a later time, b/c that is passive-aggressive behavior. It never resolves the issues.

- last 6 months (sarcasm), i live with smile or/and just ignore. I stopped pay her back 5 years ago, when decide to be real man.

She likes to eat cake, but you don't have to serve it. Know what I mean? You are not helpless. Learn to say, "no" to her face. Don't be afraid of her. Stop apologizing for the past.

. 6 months ago i have started to follow your rules. The result, is that she is more nice, and not show so much disrespect except OM2, Sh**t talk me to her friends and so on.
Now i have this situation, and i hope you are going to answer me fast before, i done something in wrong direction.
Since the beginning of the year, i show that i am not agree to be text with OM2 in front of me, first i switch of my attention from her, then i switch from her even more, next i leave the house (for walk), and today i leave again. She cal me to ask why i leave is there a real reason (when leaving i told to kids i have work to do), i answer her that she know why i leave (text OM2). She tel me with soft voice (why i did not talk to her, about it - i said that she know very well, but i will come back to talk. When i back, i said to her that i am tired to live lake this, i will not accept to live like past 2 years (OM1 Om2). She respond she is not doing nothing wrong, that i have seen this thing in wrong perspective (relation whit OM1 OM2). I answer that is not something i will put on. She accuse to control her. I ask will you stop this (she ask for clarification, so i answer it is not only OM2 - current issue, but all. I told her that i buy her "just friends" with OM1, and then come OM2, when it is finish with OM2 will be 3,4..She got little angry (before that was little scared ). She said that there is nothing (OM2), and she always was and will be with me (support me), and she will support my decisions (to leave if i do not want live like this). She said that will be tough for the kids. I said, that i am tired from all of this - her treatment of me (last 5 years, no affection, not proper attention, disrespect OM1 and OM2). I have ask, are you going to stop this, point OM2 - she accused me that i force her to do something (by the kids), I said OK, and walk out, she start telling me selfish (controlling)... i turn to her and said - if you are proper woman, you will stop this right here. (in my language the sentence was not rude ). She Respond to accept her like not proper woman - then i leave.

She call me to speak by the phone. The conversation was, that what i am going to do, when/where will live (all the same thing). I said to her that i want to close the phon that i need to think how to proceed with my life, she insist to talk more. We continuous to speak the same thing as before, and the i said there is nothing more we can said. Close the phone


Later on FB she write that she put up, being with me 5 years (after she know about my infidelity, and other blame me things), the write in threatening way that she thank me that i gave her freedom and say that i gave it to her 5 years ago. I did not answer

She call me to ask where i am (i answer) and if i going back home today - i answer will see later.

My question is what to do, should i stay out of home for day or two or week, should i go home and start to not give her any affection or attention, should i separate from her?

place Sandy answer ASAP - in the past i give up for the kids, and the situation did not change (maybe for week she pursuit OM2, less), but that its.