Hey Surv1ve, sorry you are having a tough time recently. I am glad you gad that frank and honest talk with your H. It is good that you can both talk about your feelings and I think you are lucky in a way that your H, as OwnIt mentioned, is very much in touch with his feelings.

I was interested in your comments about him 'monstering' again in the future and him validating. I thought this was the case if they do not go through all the 'stages' to the end and you try and reconcile to early? None of us knows what the future holds and I would say you need to be careful that you don't make this a self fulfilling prophecy. If you do reconcile at least if it happens again you will be better equipped to deal with the fallout and you know that you are strong enough to get through it.

(((Surv1ve)))


Last edited by job; 01/21/18 10:21 AM. Reason: edited a sentence for Coly
Me - 47
H - 45
D-16
M - 6 years
Separated - May 16

Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')