Bye bye limbo -- it's time for a change

[mleigh4]

For those of you who know me, things sink in and I come back to post more!

I just want to add something that keeps coming back to me in my conversation with H today. When he was stating why he shouldn't have to pay child support, he said he is already losing so much time with S, that he rarely gets to see him, and he doesn't get to live in the house he owns....he said he is already losing so much, and now I want more money? He said why should he be the one to lose in every way?

I did tell him all of that is his choice, not mine. He started in again, said I am blaming him...So I stopped it there. I said let's not go here once again, I want more for my life and I deserve better than this.

I am trying to process this. Is he still not owning up to his choices? Is he still playing victim? Or is he starting to realize the reality of what has happened and what is happening? He is throwing me off with these pity party moments....I agree with him, he has lost everything, but isn't this what he wanted in exchange for his freedom??