I have thought about this quite a bit and I am not ready to throw in the towel yet. If she can back I would be willing to work towards RECON.
When I started on this journey I originally said I would give it 6 months. Then I realized I could go longer and 6 months is nothing if I want to RECON. If the rule of thumb is 1 month for every year of MR then I have 7 months left.
TBH I still have faith in my W that she will figure it out. I also think it was blessing that she moved out 3 weeks after BD. She has also not been over the top disrespectful to me. I am not sure I would feel the same about my W if she put me through what some other guys on the board are experiencing. If there is OM or MEN she has kept it on the DL, does not rub it in my face, is not posting pictures of her and him on SM, he has not met my children and I would think if there was 7 months is ample opportunity for him to start coming around. She does not yell at me, make snide remarks and all that other stuff either.
I don't need a women and I don't really miss the physical contact so I don't feel a neediness to go out and meet other women and all that. So I will give it 1 yr then re-evaluate my position.
Truthfully in my eyes I am already D'd. We don't live together, finances are separate, I am already paying child support so she is truely getting a taste of what life will be like. IMO that is a good thing although if she called me tomorrow and said I am ready file I am good with that also.
I have learned through this journey that I am stronger than I ever realized.
