It takes time, eventually you will get to a point to where you are fine with either outcome (D or Recon) and/or you start to question whether or not you would want to recon.
About 3 months ago my W told me she was ready to move forward and I told her to let me know what time works best so we can discuss. She never responded to me and hasn't brought it up since. The quicker you can get to a place of confidence the better off you will be equipped to handle her temp checks.
