What to Do? 6

[chris19]

Thank you all for the advice.

I spoke on the phone with W yesterday night. We talked a bit just about how everyone was doing. I explained to her I very much did appreciated all her kindness and support through this difficult time. I also told her that due to the direction of our marriage, I wanted to take this situation to be on my own with my family. I told her I did not want to add any other emotions with her being with me because I had enough emotions going at the moment (kind of in a joking manner). I could tell she was crying over the phone; but the conversation kinda ended and we said good night.

Then I rec'ved some texts from her: "so just to be clear you do not want me to attend the visitation and funeral".

I said, "yes, that is what is best for me."

She then said, "Ok i will respect whatever your wishes are. If you change you mind, please let me know as I would like to be there to pay me respects to her, but i understand and will do as you wish."

Then I said, "I will, again that you for everything, I mean that."

She finished with "You're Welcome"

So, I made the decision at the moment to not have her by my side. Major mental strength and the first time I did not make an excuse to see her.