I didn't post out of defensiveness, everyone has the right to their own opinions, and ultimately we all must sift through the nuggets that are offered and make our own decisions because we know the plot and the characters better than anyone. I just wanted to explain because I think the standard responses (don't tell, don't move out, don't contact them, etc.) on this site often come to the fore and every situation is different, and the timing of things can even change the options. I also think the training one receives in law school, and in practice as a litigator, requires examining the problem from all sides. I really try to do that when I can.
