Former WH, now LBS Please Help, close to Give Up

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Please urgent.
Om2 after be on her work place for hair cut,FB her about go for lunch/diner. For now I do not suppose to know. How to act;
1. By just keep kids own for invitation
2. If she agree and wait for free time - hide from me
3. If she let me know before meet
4. If she let me know after meet

What to do ....how to set boundaries
Should I shut my mouth. And play cool.


Please some one calm me.
Should I contact him - hi is 12 years younger