I agree with bttrfly on not telling Bubbles' H. I have many times thought about outing my H to his family/friends and even OW's H, but refrained. I firmly believe the truth will always come out.

I have to also say that I completely understand your perspective on your H and had almost that exact experience when I confronted my H with all I knew about his inappropriate relationship with the OW. It absolutely doesn't excuse his behaviors, but based on my experience with my H alone I understand your feeling on not quite accepting the gaslighting theory and tend to agree.

You truly are handling this entire situation with so much class..it's a shame your H is the way he is...he's really missing out!

Last edited by job; 01/19/18 09:44 AM. Reason: added spaces between paragraphs
M: Early 40s H: late 30s
2 kids under 10
M: 15 yrs
BD: 7/14
S: 10/14