{{{{{{Cil}}}}}}
You are absolutely right to resist the temptation. You would hate yourself for causing more pain to others. The man must have at minimum the semblance of a clue. Truth always comes out. There are way too many suspicious people for this to go on indefinitely.

Cil, I think it might be time for you to think about how you want to engage with your exh moving forward. What I mean is, what are YOUR new rules of engagement going to be? Believe me, I know how easy it is to slip into the familiar role when the ex starts talking about something they are struggling with. I've done it. It's nice to feel needed. It's nice to feel like your opinion still matters on some level.

I think in your case most specifically, it's true cake eating.

Think about what you want to do about that, if anything. As long as your $$$ isn't affected by any potential financial shenanigans on the part of anyone, you're right to let that go.

This is for that tiny little crack in the door: how will he miss you if you're right where he left you?

much love my dear xoxoxo

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver