Dusty, good to hear from you! The in-house S really is the worst. I wouldn't say the GAL was "fake", but I think it couldn't really sink in because we were so emotionally exhausted. If nothing else, it kept us sane. Maybe that was enough.

Artista, thanks for sharing your insight. Self-centeredness is her main personality trait right now. I'll try not to let her ruin my positive attitude.

Doodler, it's funny how much more relaxed I am around the house, now that it's mine. She can't just walk in any more and hang around the place like a dark cloud. My L actually wrote in the agreement that she has to ask for my permission before entering the house. It may sound petty, but it's impossible to explain how "secure" that makes me feel.

East, thanks! I need to remember that her anger is masking something else, probably fear. But this is the life she wanted, and now she has it.

AS, I'm going to continue the niceties as best as I can. I won't lie, she does have me feeling like a sucker for being nice, which is sad. And I need to remember to balance my NGS tendencies against all this. But the negativity has lost it's appeal for me. I'm so tired of it.

It's weird, since BD XW has been asking for things to be amicable, and now that we're just about done, and we came to a fair agreement, she's acting angry. I guess "amicable" was just code for "I want things my way".


Me-47,XW-43
S13,S16
M:18
BD:4-23-17
W filed:7-17-17
(5 months of in-house separation hell)
W moved out:1-6-18
D granted:2-15-18
Decree signed:3-29-18

Your future is out there. Go find it.