I'm glad you feel empowered Gordie. I read once that there absolutely needs to be a power shift in our situations. The WAS begins holding all the cards with the LBS desperate for reconciliation and willing to do WHATEVER IT TAKES!

However, over time the LBS learns and grows and the WAS begins to experience 'life on the other side' - the LBS begins to genuinely enjoy aspects of their new, unasked for life. They are no longer desperate for reconciliation even if they are willing to consider it as an option. They have reached a place of healthy self-regard and acceptance.

I think a potentially sustainable reconciliation may only really be possible if this dynamic shift has happened?

Any ways, faking it was only until you made it - and it sounds like you are making it, which is the main thing!

Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus