Picking up Her MESS #2

[J5K]

Marina,

I am sorry you are going through this. I also have kids that are adopted. I have read your thread from the beginning. You are doing great! Stay focused on you and the kids. Do everything you can to keep them together. There has already been enough trauma in their lives, ensure that the 3 of them are together as they are young.

My xW acted similarly and only wanted my S4 just over a year ago and in the end she left S4 with xMIL and went away with another man for a weekend trip. That was the last time I allowed the boys to be separated from each other.

It doesn’t matter if an S is MLC or WAS, actions are similar. Kids truly are resilient. Do they want their parents back together, yes, but you cannot control her actions. The kids will see that quickly and recognize that. They will know you are the stable one.

Keep taking the kids to therapy. I have been through many therapists and although they are all nice, I have just recently found a psychiatrist that I know will truly help me and my boys, this is 2 years later after my xW left. I have been fortunate enough to have people come into my life that have done everything they can for the boys.

Stability is what the kids need and they are getting that from you.

I am here to support as best as I can. Stay strong and take care of the children.