Your point about your daughters loving their father but not respecting him. That is absolutely the same place my children will be when they reach the emotional age of your daughters. It's also the same place XH is with his own father. He loves him but doesn't respect him.
It makes me so sad to see people repeat the sins of their fathers as my XH has done. Intellectually they must know their actions will reduce the esteem in which their children hold them. They do them anyway. This MLC thing must truly be a malady - a form of insanity.
Your daughters are very lucky to have in you such a shining light of fairness and integrity. I'm sure a part of them will ask "What would my mother have done?" when confronted with life's difficulties.
