I appreciate the "gray rock" suggestion and am going to try that.
AS, I think your advice is great, but I think V's and Vapo's is better. I'm going to try to minimize ANY interaction between us at this point. W can still have her calls with D, I don't see any reasonable way to change that at this point until we go to court and have a final parenting plan.
On another front: I've spent LOADS of time with D this week because school has been closed every day. That's been FANTASTIC. The downside is that Invitations for the birthday party I was giving D (I told XW we needed to do separate parties this year) on Sunday were supposed to go out on Tuesday... and then Wednesday... and then today... and then tomorrow... and now they won't go out at all. So I have to cancel her party, since almost no one knows when and where. I can't even reasonably reschedule since I won't have her on a weekend until mid February. Even her "cupcakes at school" party is a no go at this point, though I'm going to shoot for next week on that so she has SOMETHING from me.
Bummed beyond belief. First birthday as single dad and I screwed it up. XW is throwing her a party at the bowling alley on Saturday, so at least she GETS a party, but I won't be there.
D still had a good week, though. We went to the Trampoline park, we went ice skating, we've done some school work, she got the door knocked on yesterday by her friends down the street (who picked her up in a Cinderella carriage power wheel) and played in the snow and at their house, we took GF to dinner for HER birthday. I wish I could give D a week like this EVERY week!
I'm going to try to minimize ANY interaction between us at this point. W can still have her calls with D, I don't see any reasonable way to change that at this point until we go to court and have a final parenting plan.