Hoping this can be saved, but having doubts

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Still struggling with not being detached and with not eavesdropping.
I recently scheduled a call with a DB coach for a few days from now, so we'll see how that goes.

It's really hard to gauge how the wife is responding to this, but I suppose a week or two is really too soon to expect to see anything major. All accounts are that she is still moving forward with planning for a life without me (although she's never actually dropped the D-bomb on me).

Our physical affection has gone way down since I stopped pursuing it.

I'm reading (and trying to follow) Sandy's rules. Despite it "Feeling wrong" I'm not pursuing or initiating physical affection, and I've avoided and R talks on the good times we have together.

I really feel like I'm in limbo here. Still living with her and sharing a bed, but she seems to be pretty checked out. But when we actually do things together she seems to sincerely like me.