Liamj, Wow as I read your sitch is like reading mines W is very condescending with kids and me W feels kids will get over it, they not going to die everyone gets divorce. W tells them this with no empathy at all. While I confer my kids and let them cry and let them vent. W grip s8 once and made a mark with nails I did confronted her and told W I would protect my kids. So W became very verbal then because is basically he said or they say she say. I honestly thought my W was the only WAW with kids mistreating them but reading your story breaks my heart I know what your going through and it feels we can't protect our babies. All I can say is keep hanging in there our ride is starting this is just the beginning. Keep being Superdad and being there hero. Go to walmart and buy yourself Super shirt with logo my kids love when I wearthem they look at me as a super hero.
I feel for you, it’s horrible knowing what she’s doing to them and being powerless to do anything about it! I can put the shift in her behaviour back to two years ago around the time I found the first messages between her and the AP. It went downhill from there really.
Yep, it’s certainly early days. But hopefully there is hope for us. When this first happened my W could not see that what she was doing was so hurtful. I asked her yesterday if she felt bad about what she had done to me, she cried and said yes. Couple months ago all I got was it’s no worse than what you’ve done to me, erm yeah ok being faiithful for 17 years and creating a great life for us and our children was a really shitty thing for me to do!
I can see glimmers of hope that she will be better to the kids. At xmas time she punished them because her AP didn’t want to bring his kids due to my sons behaviour. He ran away, as soon as I sent him back rather than trying to soothe him she just crates lots of ridiculous rules and punishments and told them it was their fault the AP didn’t want to come over. He did go there with his kids anyway and my kids had to watch them unwrap mountains of presents. I could see the remorse I’m her face when we went round to grab his school bag the other day. I was in the car and didn’t engage with her, but it was clear to see. I just wish the few people she has around her would grow a pair and tell her it’s all her fault and she’s [censored] yo their lives. I’m the only person that says it like it is. We have to be our kids cheerleaders and keep pointing out the shitty things their doing!
