Newbie In Need Of Guidance

[rminer]

What do you mean by "flexible"?

Just my way of saying I will have to accept the possibility of D.

She really means it.

I was afraid you would say that. In your opinion, does that make this process harder or easier?

Btw, I thought you made too much of a big deal of helping her look for her phone charger. That was her job, not yours. It sounded as if you were bending over backwards to recuse it for her. Old habit?

More to show sympathy, really. I know how aggravating it is to have chargers disappear because mine have gone missing quite a few times. I was trying to convey that I understood her frustration. I should have just said it instead of acting on it too?

How are you doing with detaching?

Good and bad. I have been so attached for so long, I have caught myself doing some things out of habit, realize the mistake and stop. Right now, I think the detachment part is the part giving me the most trouble.

A few times I have felt anger and resentment building up and wanted to lash out, but I didn't. I just walked away. Letting her live her own life without questions is difficult for me. I have always tried to take an interest in what she does. Not being a part of it in any capacity is new to me.

I'm going to copy & paste a shorter version of DB detaching.

Thank you. That is very clear and helps a lot.



You mentioned earlier a Transparency Plan. I am not seeing anything on this here. I see "transparency" but no referrals to "plan."

Will I get to it in the DR book?