We have gone through this exercise before, actually, with the help of the MC. We actually both want pretty much the same things in a MR... including the intimacy. But that doesn't mean she wants that with ME. I thought that was the whole point of getting her to say she was committed. (?) What good does it do to discuss what she wants (which i pretty much know already anyway) if she doesn't want it with me?
What she wants with YOU! Not just in a Marriage. What she wants to achieve with YOU, her husband! Not with some other guy or in her imaginary fantasy.
I seriously think this is a worthwhile discussion.
