Jim....IMO I think you are going to have to. The catalyst that got my W really admitting to me how she felt was a very similar situation that happened to you last night. She was supposed to be home at a certain time, ended up coming home 3 hours late and we got into a conversation when she was tipsy. That conversation was her basically being honest with me, telling me the only reason why she stuck around for the past several weeks was to make me feel better to give me the impression that we tried. She told me she was selfish, knew she was being selfish but basically didn't give a $hit.
IMO you are going to need to have the conversation, I real honest conversation.
