What feels yucky and wrong? Her reactions or your feelings?
You said you "either I did the right thing" or I "really fuched up" I hope you are not determining which is which based on the outcome. The point is you expressing your feelings and being clear with what you need out of the M. Which is full commitment to restoring the M. Nothing wishy washy. You may not get the result you want, but that does not determine whether or not you did the right thing.
Have you asked her what SHE wants out of the M? What a healthy reconciled M looks like to HER? What SHE needs in the M? That would definitely give you a good picture to see if you guys are on the same wavelength. ANd it would also be good to show her you are concerned about her needs in the M. Because they do matter. I really believe asking this question will tell you if she is just doing the minimum to appease you and say she tried, or if she truly wants a restored healthy marriage.
