Wife says that she had enough, files for divorce

[SwHubby]

Hi everyone, it is time for an update.

I tried to do it before and started writing but never got to the finish line and posted it. But I come here from time to time to check up on the forum and reading some threads.

I had a hard time this fall and fell back in my recovery for a couple of weeks due to stress, but got back up again. My main focus has been my daughter and I feel that we have come closer to each other more and more since BD. Which feels great.

I still suffer from illness but I am working more conciously to control it instead of the other way around. Recently I contacted a coach to get help with mental thinking, food and excercise. That has been helpful. I realize that I have been beating myself down so much since I got ill a few years ago and work slowly to raising my standards for myself.

My wife and I attended mediation and started communicating again. It is tough since we still have quite different agendas but at least we have been able to start co-parenting a little bit. W still thinks that it would be best for D to live full time with her, but I get more and more time with her. Especially since she is asking W for it. She started sleeping over at my apartment before Christmas and will do so every other weekend to begin with, but I am working on extending it and I am hopeful. I had a hard time deciding if I should go to court or not but in the end decided to go for diplomacy. For now. And it is paying off, but it is slow way.

Right now W and D are on vacation with W:s family for a couple of weeks but will come home again this weekend. I really miss them and look forward to meet them. A couple of days ago I noticed a post W did on social media about how tough this year had been and how happy and proud she was of herself etc. It really got to me, but not as much as it would have done a few months ago. I guess I am slowly getting detached but I am not there yet.

GALing is not going great, but it is not terrible either. I have a hard time connecting with ppl. My closest friends live on the other side of the country and my family as well. Moved to this town to live close to W:s family.

I excercise a lot (almost daily), eating healthy and getting enough sleep. And spend time with D. Other than that, it is mostly work and spending time at home.

Best regards,
SwHubby