Are you saying that you don't think I should talk to her about "us" at all like we said we were going to do, or I shouldn't confront about the affair?
Actually, I was saying both. There is a lot of guidance on here about "No R talk," meaning no relationship talk after your W has asked for D or started an A.
It's counter-intuitive, but your W will find you more attractive if you ignore her. I used to ask my W "How was your day?" Her answer was always "Fine" and I had a horrible time trying to get her to say more. She never asked about my day. After I found the Last Resort Technique and this site, I stopped asking. I go about my business. I've GAL.
Then, presto, she started asking about me. I try to keep my answers short, but could probably keep them shorter. Completely detach, or make it look like you have. Be mysterious. It will make your W more interested. But don't answer her questions too completely, or the mystery will be gone.
Married 15, Together 17 M: 59, W: 57, SS: 28 BD: 12/21/2017 My 1st M; W 2nd M