2 months is a short time. I'm just past the 2 month mark myself. No progress on a Recon. But progress made on myself. Keep on working on you, doing you, and being the best you that you can. Every week you're a little bit better version of yourself. Trauma like this can often lead to startling growth. Lead the way. Maybe she'll follow, but that's not on you.
I'm about to start separation, too. Hopefully distance will bring about space enough for healing for all sides.
Me: Mid 40s W : Early 40s M:11 T:13 S, D, both 7-10 BD : 11/2017 Separation : 1/18