Newbie In Need Of Guidance

[rminer]

The H has to set and enforce boundaries. I hope you are reading about it.

I am.

The other thing I wanted to clarify is about her going out at night. When I said don't let her see you acting sad, I didn't mean for you to act goofy and overkill by telling her to enjoy herself or that she deserves it. Some H's even tell the WW to have a good time. I don't really agree with telling a wayward W this, b/c she is suspected of inappropriate behavior. Just try not to look fake.

She never tells me she is going, and I don't act bothered. It wouldn't do any good anyway.

Finding balance in your new actions/behavior and interactions with her will be challenging.

I'm finding this to be very true. I want to shake her and ask what the heck does she think she is doing, but at the same time I don't want to make things worse. This balancing act is going to kill me.