I will say this I think she needs counceling and I thought she did before BD. Irrational behavior, illogical thinking and a mentality that she needs to put herself first. As if everybody in her life took from her and now its her time to live.
I wonder if she's about to go through menopause, she is at the right age and the above (bolded part) is EXACTLY the change in view that a lot of women experience in menopause. And you know what, a lot of women do sacrifice a lot of themselves to raise kids, care for their H and extended family and maintain a household. They reach the mid-40's to mid-50's and go through a change- they feel like they've put themselves last all this time and they now want to put themselves first. You know what I think? I think they deserve it. My XW was a fantastic mother, wife, friend to others, volunteer, etc. etc. Now she wants to spoil herself and I say more power to her. I just wish she had put herself first more in the M so that she didn't develop all the feelings of resentment.
It has been suggested by several people that she is going through something, she just doesnt know it. But like you said AS she deserves it then go for it, there will be some damage left behind but right now its about her. BTW she was and still is an incredible mother, she did however always put our children first, I was always last. She never had time for me, and this is where the resentment began.
M:52 W:49 D:26 S:24 S:23 D:20 ILYBNILWY 5/28/17 Still living together W filed 1/5/18 W moved out 8/24/18 D final 9/18/20
