I will say this I think she needs counceling and I thought she did before BD. Irrational behavior, illogical thinking and a mentality that she needs to put herself first. As if everybody in her life took from her and now its her time to live.
I wonder if she's about to go through menopause, she is at the right age and the above (bolded part) is EXACTLY the change in view that a lot of women experience in menopause. And you know what, a lot of women do sacrifice a lot of themselves to raise kids, care for their H and extended family and maintain a household. They reach the mid-40's to mid-50's and go through a change- they feel like they've put themselves last all this time and they now want to put themselves first. You know what I think? I think they deserve it. My XW was a fantastic mother, wife, friend to others, volunteer, etc. etc. Now she wants to spoil herself and I say more power to her. I just wish she had put herself first more in the M so that she didn't develop all the feelings of resentment.
