While i do not post often, i have kept up with all of your threads and have always appreciated your honesty and insight.
To be honest, i am a bit upset at some of the posters that have been making innuendos that you are like some of the walkaway females that are written about om these boards. The ones that lie and cheat amd leave their kids.
I dont know if it is sexism at play...you are supposed to be the good girl, true and faithful amd forgiving after having been put through a quite hellish betrayal. Or if people have just become way too black and white in their views of marriage..save it at all costs.
I am a supporter of marriage but my boundary has always been an affair. You wrote similar in your old posts. Despite this boundary, you opened yourself up to piecing and reconciliation. Just the fact that you were open to something you were so against shows you gave it youre all.
Its not just the affair. Its the gaslighting and cruelty that goes along with it. Its damaging in so many ways.
Whatever you decide, its youre journey. And i truly wish the best for you.
