Sorry Cil. That relationship was all around WRONG even if no PA happened. Awful all around that her h tolerated it and that your h did not honor your request to dissolve that relationship. They both chose to put themselves in compromising positions. It was not just bad for their marriages, it was very unprofessional as well.

I am sorry. I know how much that hurts. But leave them to each other. You are the prize. It is his loss.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced