Newbie In Need Of Guidance

[rminer]

Was it a mistake b/c you were trying to keep her on the phone longer?

Maybe a little, but it was more to show concern.

Why do you feel this was a mistake? What was your motive behind the compliment? Were you trying to score some brownie points? IDK, you tell me.

Brownie points, no, but I was trying to let her know she did the right thing and I was acknowledging it.

Ok. So maybe a few brownie points.

If it doesn't require you having to leave work early, and you go right past the school, then I see nothing wrong with it.

It was from a friend's house, but the reason was SHE wanted to be gone and didn't want to break her plans. I should have asked Moe questions.

BTW, you don't have to have a legit reason to go out. Just get out of the house.

Looks like I'll be spending some time at the local pub! Maybe I'll get my dart game back in form!

If she does go out, don't let her leave seeing you looking gloomy/sad/mad. Act as if you hardly notice she's leaving. Make sure you are doing something you enjoy....having fun time with the kids, etc. This action is not to cause her guilt, but for her to see you being an attractive man who is not upset, co-dependent and needy on her staying home with you. Don't be doing housework she hasn't touched. Don't play the victim.

I've never told her she couldn't go out. Ever. She's home with the kids all day and I know she needs time away. The hard part is knowing she is not always going where she says she is going now. I'll keep the happy face though.