Hi Surv1ve,
Well, my theory on that is this: when you've been in a longterm intimate relationship, each party knows the other, so well that it's instinct. My best advice is detach as best you can. That's the key, but so difficult.

xoxoxoxo

{{{{{hugs}}}}}

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver