I just read the happy again posts from somewhere in the sticky notes where a MLC spouse confirms about pushing our buttons to justify their crappy actions. My H has admitted to that, too.

Man, do your best to give him no fodder but I think I'm also asking you to dodge a hail of bullets.

I am so admiring of your strength. Gosh, can your H go to his apartment already? Give you some much-deserved peace.

BD#1: "marriage is over" 9/14/2016
H in basement 24/7 with EX/OM
BD#2: 3/20/2017 I plan to move out "soon" I LRT
me: 42, H, 41, EX/OM, 37
D 10, Son 7
M to H = 20 years
EX/OM moved in 10 years ago