In the UK - pt23 - bugger me pink, I'm still here

[Huddy]

Ouch! That's a bit of a kicker Ginger! Like or not, we're all still attached, otherwise, why are we here? I keep reading about them doing the work etc. and about moving forward, but to me it seems I'm the only one doing anything. I don't see anything - not one thing at all. I read stories on here about people making at least some effort with their LBS and I worry that 'I'm' the problem.

I could understand if I was a tyrant, who controlled my W's life, but I wasn't. I worked long hard hours to try and get everything the family needed. So yeah, after all this time, I'm wondering what's this all for? I keep busy and do have GAL activities etc. but have down days.

What does dropping the rope look like? It seems to me I have done everything I can. We live apart, I do NC and I'm not going to be a complete ogre for nothing. So, do I D? I don't want that, and as we have children, there is always going to be a thread. It's just not practical.

The mantra of this site is 'do things that work'. Well, it ain't working (NC that is) and I'm thinking is there another way. I have only recently returned to the boards in a big way, as I felt I was getting nothing from it, and adding nothing. I think it's time to retire back to that position.