Perhaps reading your posts actually helped him to piece? Reading your posts as though an observer, may have made some type of break through with him. IDK, and I realize you feel your privacy has been violated.

If this had happened before you had grown so dissatisfied with the piecing, and before the flirty interaction with the OM started.....would H's snooping have been the deciding factor to leaving the MR? Only you can answer that question, and if you already have a list of reasons why things wouldn't get better.....well, only you can make a decision what is best for Blu. Maybe this is the straw that broke the camel's back.

When you discovered your H had read your posts, did it hurt your pride for him to have access to see what you had said about him, describing your pain, etc.? When I think of someone reading my diary, I think of being embarrassed that they could read my most private thoughts. When I first joined the board, my H found my threads.....and I was still a WW, trying to decide what to do. Under the circumstances, however, I didn't feel there was much I could say.

I wish you health and happiness, Blu. Most of all, I wish you peace.

((hugs))

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!