My in-laws offered to lend me some money to buy WH out on the condition they have an interest in my house. This is my only hope of retaining the family home. I got a text while I was at lunch with a friend yesterday from MiL saying that they were still happy to help but would only offer me a reduced sum.
Your in-laws offered to loan you money for you to stay in the house? Can't say I've ever heard of an arrangement like that before! Is there a reason you want to stay there? I think I'd rather move out then be on the hook to my ex-in-laws. I had a lot of respect for them, but still that would be an awkward situation.
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They know I can't proceed without the sum they originally committed just before Christmas. I feel I am being out-manouvered.
My brother put his foot down about moving out of the house when his W left him. They've been D'd for many years now and that house has proven to be far more than he can afford. The utility bills, mortgage, upkeep and taxes have crippled him. His credit cards are maxed out and he lives paycheck to paycheck. All I'm saying is make sure that if you are staying there, you are staying for the right reasons and can afford to stay. Don't stay just as a sign of defiance to your H.
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I feel very frightened, and under attack.
Very sorry you're feeling this way. Do you think maybe your desire to stay in the house is allowing you to be controlled and is what is causing the fear?
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God has been nowhere so that's been no use.
It didn't seem like he was there for me either. Or maybe he was but it didn't seem like it because he wanted me to suffer and grow from this experience. We need to find the strength to get through these horrible situations. It's not easy, not at all. It's akin to going to war. You'll survive, but you'll have emotional scars, and a steely glint in your eye that will never go away.
