So, part of his MANIAC EMERGENCY is about trying to cover his tracks. I am SO glad to hear that your L has already paid for herself.

I also cannot fathom your H trying to prevent you from attending the son's baseball games. How does he possibly think that is going to work out for his R with his S? Like, hello? And, oh man, I'm so sorry.

Just a suggestion: that would be the kind of thing that is worth documenting in a note for your L. I don't know what your hopes and intentions with custody are, but a spouse who demonstrates an unwillingness to support the healthy relationship with a child's other parent is a pretty big flag re: custody.

BD#1: "marriage is over" 9/14/2016
H in basement 24/7 with EX/OM
BD#2: 3/20/2017 I plan to move out "soon" I LRT
me: 42, H, 41, EX/OM, 37
D 10, Son 7
M to H = 20 years
EX/OM moved in 10 years ago