Gordie #16: walking away from from MLC W

[Gordie]

Butterfly,

Thank you for reminding me that my feelings may well change. What I feel today will not be how I feel a year or two from now.

When you say you will always love them...what does that mean? I’ve been asking myself that question and I don’t know the answer.

Yes, I cherish the time with the children as I know our separation will be a huge change to their world.

Some days I say to myself that the woman I married would never do this but here she is doing this.

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Andrew,

Those are good thoughts and questions. Where does duty end? When does until death do we part mean anything but just that? Stbx told me she felt “dead” so fulfilled her obligation. Such twisted, verbal acrobatics. And like yours, she said it fulfilled my obligation too—lucky me! One time when stbx asked me to do something and I declined saying she “fired” me from that job—she didn’t like that language. I think I’m her mind he end of our M just happened and she is not to blame.

I think AnotherStander wrote something that has stuck with me. He was happy in his M on cruise control. Everything seemed good. His failure was to not see that his W was not happy with their R on cruise control. So at b d, it was too late to save the M for him. She had given up and for her there was no trying again.