What about IC for your D? Do you have something set up for her when you tell her you are not her biological dad? I think it would be really useful regardless.
I did not save my marriage and I did not even have a subsequent R last more than 6 months in the last 10 years. My D was a baby when we split. I had no help. Some emotional support, but I was on my own. My job became an issue with schedule and I had to bounce around. I spent quite a few good years just focusing on my D and keeping my life together. May my R's fail and I have a really bad man-picker, there is one area I will brag in. I have raised my daughter, almost single-handedly, fabulously against one of the hardest circumstances. If I could share with anyone what I learned through trial and error, I always will. Because it was trial and error sometimes. Now, at 10, I look at my D everyday who is so well adjusted, loving, smart, bright, and minimally affected by all of this. Affected, yes, but minimally. I do not give that credit to my ex, either. I give it to me.
This is not me saying I know the only right way, or anyone is doing anything wrong. This is my way of imparting knowledge gained in truly, one of the most difficult circumstances of my life.
