So. I texted our friends and cancelled the lunch date. I told them I didn't see myself going to lunch with W two days after being served with D papers. My W wanted to know what our lunch plans were. She texted me if I contacted them to confirm the time. I replied, after a delay, that I texted them "Thanks for the invite, but I have to decline." She replied later, "Good to know, Thanks". She was mad about cancelling the lunch date. When she got home she asked me what I told them. I replied to her that I told them what I had in the text.
On Friday night, I joined a poker game with the guys I play soccer with. I had a great time. I don't really care for gambling, but I like drinking and socializing. the GAL like this really gets my mind off of my troubled MR. Also, I wonder what W thought being I got home so late?
On Saturday I was going hiking with two good friends, a couple, and D16. After hiking we went for lunch at winery. The wife in the couple is one of my W's best friends. When we're at lunch, I tell them about the pending D and they already knew. I was unsure if they knew. It is interesting because they are friends with both me and my W, and they did say they hope that they don't have to choose between us. I told them that I was fine doing family things together or big events where lots of people went, but I couldn't go out with just the four of us anymore. I think they understood. I did learn from them that my W was crying the night before because they were with her. My W obviously knew I was going hiking and to lunch with this couple, and I wonder what she thought because she didn't come? I suspect my W's idea of a D but keeping all the good things such as getting together with friends as a couple will not happen.
So on Saturday while I was hiking, my W was doing work. Then she was out -- I don't know where. After dinner she asked D11 if she wanted to see the Avengers movie. D11 said no. My W left and came back about 1000. I think she just wanted to get out of the house, away from me.
Another dose of realty happened on Sunday. Two couples, including the one I went hiking with on Saturday, invited us to a movie and then dinner afterwards. The 6 of us are real close. I told them I would go, however I missed the movie. I did make the dinner. My W didn't go. This is extremely out of character for her to skip a invite like this. I image the two other women had texted my W and knew exactly why she didn't come. When I got home my W was doing laundry.
I think my W's fantasy of getting a D but remaining best buddies with me is collapsing. I have little hope it will change the trajectory. Anyway, considering I was served D papers, I had a good weekend.
Question: Does what I describe sound like the LRT? Because this is what I'm trying to do even though we're under the same roof.
