Adjusting to being a LBS #2

[Clyde]

My S7 & S5 did okay, they expressed their discontent with the sitch and asked often when Mom was going to come home... with time they adjusted as best they could given the sitch.

My D13 took it hard but a lot of that had to do with her knowing of things no child should have to try to comprehend. D13 had been secretly reading her moms text and emails prior to and after BD, she also got her hands on her moms copies of the court docs... D13 got very defensive of me and started to despise her mom. This made it very difficult to shield my D13 from the dynamics of the sitch. That is key though, to shield them from the madness, do whatever you can to reassure them that both Mom and Dad love them.

Prior to what I feel was my W's MLC and BD, my W was a true June Cleaver... our kids had hot breakfast most mornings, notes in their lunch boxes, story time every night, and so forth. While I could not fill the physical void of their Mom not being there, I was determined for the rest of their home life to stay the same. Yeah there was the nights were I did simple chicken nuggets and Mac and cheese, but the majority of the time I cooked meals like my W did... I did all the little (and big) things she did, I told myself that I could not skip a beat when it came to the kids home life. I really think all this helped the kids and for me it was a form of GAL.