Calling HaWho

[HaWho]

Thanks KML. That is solid advice. I hope you are right that the kids feel some relief. Most worried about s12 who is a bleeding heart.

Bttrfly - such wise advice and with such a heavy hand on kindness. You always balance the two.

Sotto - thank you for this. You are an inspiration at rebuilding; one of the best at showing how it's done!

Huddy - thanks for chiming in. I hoped he would have come a little further these last few years. But alas, no. Sadly, I don't think he's one that will pull through. I don't see him attempting that level of introspection. And I agree with Job that now he'll probably put the pedal to the medal of his replay car.

But yes, Wonka's words to stay calm are golden. Thankfully h has always been a big chicken when it comes to face to face confrontation. Even this week when I went in to tell him he needed to slow down and let me read everything, he kept telling me to "quiet down, shush, you are talking too loud." This is what he does when I try to assert myself; he tries to re-gain control via this shushing method. Now, when he's behind a computer, he spews the most horrific stuff. Really below the belt.

This weekend I had a great opportunity to practice calmness in the face of ridiculousness. My L emailed his L asking that h stop communicating with me as h was insisting I make decisions in an instantaneous fashion. How did h respond? Well, he took the advice quite literally. He is not communicating with me at all. I mean zero. Guess my L should not have assumed common sense would be practiced and instead should have said "refrain from communicating about the d, but do continue communicating about the children."

Yesterday s12 had a game. New team and the schedule was not up and h was the one emailed, not I. S was kinda sure where the game was. He asked h and said mom will meet us there. Obviously I knew we would not drive together and he has now told me I am "dead to him." (Thing is? Think I've been dead to him for years now.) Anyway, he told s not to worry as he'd take him. S again said mom wants to come and nope, h wouldn't tell me where. Cruel that he would do that to me as he knows I work all week and live for seeing his games. The look of confusion on s's face tore me to pieces. Awful the way he triangulates the kids into what is our problem. I just said "no big deal I'll try to see you there. If not, the place is wrong."

I took a chance and went where s thought it was. Arrived early enough that if it was he wrong place I still had time to drive to the other place it could be. As I turn in, I see h's car. Yippee! First thing I did was go to the new coach and give my email address so I can be added to all team info.

Slept 6 hours with my new bestie friend the Dr. gave me. That is more than I slept all week! And the pill has no grogginess in the AM.

Yesterday, I fixed a broken door that had been broken a while. Today, I got a flat tire. When AAA came to put the spare on I had him teach me how to fill the air in my tires correctly. I am doing massive spring cleaning, too. Cleaning out closets and donating old items. It's keeping my mind occupied and my body tired. I remember just what worked for me from those early days of BD.

Thank you to all here. I really do have the Dream Team of MLC beside me!