Why did you ask her to move out ASAP? Are you trying to get a reaction? I read through your threads last night and you must have said ten times since June you were done and ready to file. Now she has done it for you and will be labeled as the bad guy. I would think you would be happy about it.
If you read my post earlier I told you the realization will set in with time. With you trying to force her out she will see this as the same old BH trying to control the situation.
IMO what you should do is follow Sandis rules and start to plan out the next 30 years of your life. Indifference is what you are searching for. If you continue to push her and threaten her it will reinforce to her that is making the right choice.
