to be faithful even if she is unfaithful ...until death do we part. If you know that George Jones song “He stopped loving her today”... I think that’s going to be me.
That's a favourite song of mine as well. I'm not religious myself but I certainly understand where you are coming from.
For me it came down to the fact that I made a Promise, just as you did and our wives did. I recall my ex telling me that the promise she made was meaningless and she felt that mine should be as well. I didn't accept that then and still don't.
Where our thinking diverges though is that I linked my Promise to my Duty. Since she left and had made it clear that she preferred OM to me even after a more than reasonable time for her to think it over, I felt that my Duty was fulfilled and that I could move on. It's now just over a year since I made that decision and I haven't found anyone new and realistically am not really looking but I have certainly let her go.
Something I see you struggling with, that I never had to was to identify for yourself where the boundaries of your own Duty lie. Is it just an emotional or spiritual one, or are there practical elements. The discussion around whether or not you should have a role in smoothing things between D1 and her or not is a good example.
A common phrase around here is that we've been "fired". In cases like ours where we haven't been explicitly told that it's tough.
Just some things to muse upon on a Sunday.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
